Self-Destruction and the Trap of People Pleasing
Helping others feels undeniably good. The positive vibes we get from helping rewards our sense of purpose and meaning. It is understandable that the secondary gain we get from helping (identity rewards) would also be a compelling motivator for selfless behavior.
We all know someone who takes this to the extreme. Maybe some of us are guilty of this ourselves. Selfless behavior can be addicting for certain personalities. Well, maybe not addicting exactly, but it can become habitual and even automatic, sometimes at one’s own detriment.